A little more about me...
Who am I, and how did I get here?!
Why should this matter in your life if you're reading this?
Read below to glean a little more of my story:
About
First and foremost: I'm a long-time single mom and my daughter, Bianca, is my Favourite Person in the world! Here's a photo of the two us together...
My Expertise: Although my expertise now lies in helping others achieve victory over trauma, it wasn't always this way... As life so happens, I had to conquer my own battles first! Because our wounds ignite our greatest wisdom, I'm blessed and grateful to have traveled my journey and ended up where I am now: an international One-to-One Trauma Mentor, Life Coach, Codependency Expert and Addiction Recovery Coach to others who need a guiding light.
Here's My Areas of Specialty:
I was born the youngest of five children in Rhodesia (now called Zimbabwe) during the Rhodesian Bush War. My father was a Sergeant Major in the military, so I was an army brat from the get-go. We lived as anyone living during a war period exists: it's up close and personal, and it usually brings about immense suffering, tension, and family strain.
Both my parents were children of abuse and abandonment. Unfortunately, their parenting style didn't differ much from how they were raised ... Thus, I grew up in violence on all levels: mental, emotional, and physical.
As a result, I learned to be quick and cunning - always reading the energy of a room and living on high alert for any potential danger. Corporal punishment did not instill obedience in me, as much as my family tried... Instead, it had the opposite effect.
I rebelled against authority and have a particular bone to pick against any bullying or scare tactics. At school, I'd bully the bullies who hurt others. This continued into my young adult years.
Ultimately, I ended up marrying an abusive addict and alcoholic who himself had been abused by his parents. Isn't it serendipitous how our patterns of behavior repeat themselves in seemingly endless cycles unless we dare to make the changes required from within?!
The day I knew I was pregnant with my daughter, however, is the day that I made a firm decision to change my life and end the cycle of abuse in my world. It took years... Sometimes, it felt as if I was doing a cha-cha dance with my programming and thought patterns. And sometimes it felt as if I'd managed a quantum leap in a single day.
A Fresh Start in Another Country:
After initiating divorce proceedings amidst much turmoil and violence, I had to leave Los Angeles in order to make a fresh start in my life. I was driven to do this for my little girl, and I took a giant leap of faith. I flew to Cape Town, South Africa, with nothing but the luggage I could pull with one arm, and my little girl in my other arm: ready to start anew.
I raised my daughter in love, understanding, and compassion despite being stalked by my ex-husband. Somehow, together, we made it through the worst times and Bianca enjoys a decent relationship with her father today.
Why I Help Others:
As we know, there is simply nothing that beats experience... Only by having suffered physical, emotional, mental, and sexual abuse myself am I able to offer my Clients a genuine judgment-free empathetic ear and a solid guiding hand towards the light that exists for their future.
Furthermore, I've since studied a number of courses and programs to help me help others overcome their challenges.
I find myself in a rather unique position because I'm readily able to speak into the lives of other abuse and trauma victims with clarity, understanding, compassion, truth, and honesty. I've been there, too.
Step by Step, Week by Week:
I uncover a Client's self-sabotaging patterns of thought (which leads to their behavior and results in life), after which we move into stage two and onward of my mentorship program: focusing on the next step.
It's literally a process through which I ignite light and hope within a person when all they can see is darkness and despair.
I've personally met many alcoholics who feel lost and unsupported once they leave their initial program with AA, for example. People come to me once they feel as if they're 'left alone in the world' to figure it out at home... while still fighting the odd particular urge.
Long-Term Transformation:
We all know that long-term transformation takes time. It's not a 'sudden event' that occurs in our world. If you're looking for an experienced ear and guiding light to support you over a sustained period so that you truly achieve the results you're looking for: I'm here for you.
xoxo
Tammy
The Short BIO:
I have over 20 years’ experience in mentoring, counseling, and relationship coaching, and understand what it REALLY takes to empower people to take decisive action. As a result of my expertise, I've since helped clients, colleagues, friends, and acquaintances obtain the Healing and Freedom necessary to live a beautiful life rich in Light and Hope. I have successfully moved from victim to victor and am currently thriving as the Founder & CEO of the first division of The Tammy Lawless Brand - Trauma Mentor, Recovery Coach, Codependency Expert, and Teen Behavioral Specialist.
Here's My Areas of Specialty:
- Trauma Healing & Recovery (eg. from sudden events and immense grief)
- Dysfunctional & Co-Dependent Relationships
- Abuse - Other (mental, emotional, physical, sexual)
- Rehabilitation & Recovery from Substance Abuse (drugs, alcohol)
- Empowering Teens to learn the level of independence that only they can give themselves
I was born the youngest of five children in Rhodesia (now called Zimbabwe) during the Rhodesian Bush War. My father was a Sergeant Major in the military, so I was an army brat from the get-go. We lived as anyone living during a war period exists: it's up close and personal, and it usually brings about immense suffering, tension, and family strain.
Both my parents were children of abuse and abandonment. Unfortunately, their parenting style didn't differ much from how they were raised ... Thus, I grew up in violence on all levels: mental, emotional, and physical.
As a result, I learned to be quick and cunning - always reading the energy of a room and living on high alert for any potential danger. Corporal punishment did not instill obedience in me, as much as my family tried... Instead, it had the opposite effect.
I rebelled against authority and have a particular bone to pick against any bullying or scare tactics. At school, I'd bully the bullies who hurt others. This continued into my young adult years.
Ultimately, I ended up marrying an abusive addict and alcoholic who himself had been abused by his parents. Isn't it serendipitous how our patterns of behavior repeat themselves in seemingly endless cycles unless we dare to make the changes required from within?!
The day I knew I was pregnant with my daughter, however, is the day that I made a firm decision to change my life and end the cycle of abuse in my world. It took years... Sometimes, it felt as if I was doing a cha-cha dance with my programming and thought patterns. And sometimes it felt as if I'd managed a quantum leap in a single day.
A Fresh Start in Another Country:
After initiating divorce proceedings amidst much turmoil and violence, I had to leave Los Angeles in order to make a fresh start in my life. I was driven to do this for my little girl, and I took a giant leap of faith. I flew to Cape Town, South Africa, with nothing but the luggage I could pull with one arm, and my little girl in my other arm: ready to start anew.
I raised my daughter in love, understanding, and compassion despite being stalked by my ex-husband. Somehow, together, we made it through the worst times and Bianca enjoys a decent relationship with her father today.
Why I Help Others:
As we know, there is simply nothing that beats experience... Only by having suffered physical, emotional, mental, and sexual abuse myself am I able to offer my Clients a genuine judgment-free empathetic ear and a solid guiding hand towards the light that exists for their future.
Furthermore, I've since studied a number of courses and programs to help me help others overcome their challenges.
I find myself in a rather unique position because I'm readily able to speak into the lives of other abuse and trauma victims with clarity, understanding, compassion, truth, and honesty. I've been there, too.
Step by Step, Week by Week:
I uncover a Client's self-sabotaging patterns of thought (which leads to their behavior and results in life), after which we move into stage two and onward of my mentorship program: focusing on the next step.
It's literally a process through which I ignite light and hope within a person when all they can see is darkness and despair.
I've personally met many alcoholics who feel lost and unsupported once they leave their initial program with AA, for example. People come to me once they feel as if they're 'left alone in the world' to figure it out at home... while still fighting the odd particular urge.
Long-Term Transformation:
We all know that long-term transformation takes time. It's not a 'sudden event' that occurs in our world. If you're looking for an experienced ear and guiding light to support you over a sustained period so that you truly achieve the results you're looking for: I'm here for you.
xoxo
Tammy
The Short BIO:
I have over 20 years’ experience in mentoring, counseling, and relationship coaching, and understand what it REALLY takes to empower people to take decisive action. As a result of my expertise, I've since helped clients, colleagues, friends, and acquaintances obtain the Healing and Freedom necessary to live a beautiful life rich in Light and Hope. I have successfully moved from victim to victor and am currently thriving as the Founder & CEO of the first division of The Tammy Lawless Brand - Trauma Mentor, Recovery Coach, Codependency Expert, and Teen Behavioral Specialist.
"We are all broken. That's how the light gets in." -- Ernest Hemingway
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